Yesterday, I woke up to all this chatter about Beyoncé, Solange and Jay Z (via the TMZ video linked above). I didn’t even know where to start. But I wanted to share with my blog fam what I said to my Facebook fam. First, mad props to Jigga for never even looking like he was gonna hit her back. Next, can we talk about the ill side eye B gives Jay around the one minute mark? He’s clearly being scolded and can’t understand why Bey hasn’t said anything to her sister. Finally, I give Beyoncé credit for not picking sides. Hov might be her husband, but Solange is her little sister, and older siblings everywhere know they’ve been protecting their baby siblings since the day the kids were born.
Before I get to my final point, I’m actually going to expand on that a little. I don’t know how many of you are older siblings, but I will tell you that honest to God, I would kill for my (not so) little brother. Many older siblings understand that your younger sibling is like your first kid. So Solange was Beyonce’s practice for Blue Ivy. Now, I’m not saying they’re the closest family in the world, because I don’t know if that’s the case. What I do know, is that you’ll be hard pressed to find an older sibling who won’t choose their younger sibling over almost anyone in the world. They might fight like cats and dogs, but at the end of the day, no one gets to mess with that person, but you.
That’s especially true if they’re defending you. Of course, we don’t know what Solange was freaking out about. Maybe she’s just an angry drunk. But something else I know as an older sibling, you don’t set yourself up for failure. Bey isn’t going to put herself in a situation where she’s gonna have to deal with her husband and her sister fighting if she can avoid it. Not for either of their benefits, but for her own. She knows both of them better than she knows herself. So she’s not gonna have them in a situation where they’re beefing if for no other reason than it forces her to pick sides.
My personal opinion? Jay hit her (Eat the cake, Anna Mae), and Beyonce might be willing to accept that, but Solange isn’t. That’s the other thing about that sibling dynamic. We’re fiercely protective of each other, even if we won’t protect ourselves.
My conclusion: I’m as curious to know what the ladies were upset about as the next overly interested American, but also it’s a family thing and not really anyone else’s business, in my opinion.
P.S. A lesson we all learn at some point: blood over water. Your sibling is ALWAYS your sibling. The divorce rate in America is too high to pick your spouse who might be gone tomorrow.
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